2026-06-02
2026 IMAS Graduation Ceremony
2026 IMAS Graduation Ceremony
Guest Speaker: Katharine A. Bostick
A former U.S. federal prosecutor and senior legal executive, Ms. Bostick addressed the IMAS Class of 2026 from a parent's perspective, sharing lessons on courage, lifelong learning, meaningful relationships, and kindness as graduates begin the next stage of their journeys.
Graduation Talk from a Parent’s Perspective
National Cheng Chi University — May 30, 2026
Speaker: Parent Representative
Congratulations to the 2026 Graduate Students of National Cheng Chi University!
On behalf of all the parents, family, and friends of the graduates, we want to thank all the professors, advisors, and support staff who have supported this community of graduates — because it truly does take a village for students to reach this milestone.
Thank you for the honor of serving as the parent representative today — speaking for all the parents, family, and friends here in person, and for those who could not attend but are here in spirit. We are all so proud of you and everything you have accomplished.
I am the mother of Christy Haruka Ellis — what our family calls our “Singapore surprise.” When we moved to Singapore over two decades ago, we arrived with two children aged 3 and 5. Then, much to our surprise, along came Christy — a gift to three sisters (Alexia, who is here today; Dani, who lives in Sweden; and Laurita, who lives in the US), a grandmother (Obachan), her beloved nanny Susan, who is also here, and family and friends around the world.
Like Christy, each one of you is a gift to your parents, loved ones, and friends — and we are here today to celebrate all of you.
I should confess: I did not consult Christy before volunteering to tell this story about her today. I think she has since forgiven me — I think.
★ Please join me in a round of applause for the graduates! ★
Today I will keep my remarks brief and focus on three things that I hope will guide you as you go out and take on the world:
Have the courage to be yourself
Be purposeful — and enjoy the journey
Be kind
1. Courage
Let me begin with a quote — “The Man in the Arena” by President Theodore Roosevelt:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again — because there is no effort without error and shortcoming — but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while Daring Greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
Life will always have its ups and downs. Don’t be afraid to try hard things and step outside your comfort zone. It is okay to take risks — and most importantly, it is okay to fail and pick yourself back up again. Through failure, we learn, grow, and discover new things.
Over the years I have interviewed many candidates for roles, and one question I always ask is: “Tell me about a time you failed and how you handled it.” The candidates who cannot think of a single instance? Those are the ones I worry about. An inability to name a failure usually means someone has been too comfortable, not taking enough risks. Comfort is the enemy of growth.
I have a long list of my own failures, so let me share just one.
My mother grew up during World War II on Amami Island, Japan. Her family was very poor and she never had the chance to finish high school or go to college. In her twenties, her brother told her about a job opening on a military base — driving trucks. She applied. There was only one small problem: she did not know how to drive.
She was hired to work in the office instead, and my father, confident as ever, declared he would teach her to drive. They were married 45 years. He tried many times. It never happened. But she had so many other talents and gifts that she and my father poured into all of their children.
When I was a young prosecutor, I proudly invited my mother to watch one of my closing arguments. I had practiced. I was ready. I was sure she would be impressed.
When I asked what she thought, she said it was “okay” — and then handed me a tape recorder. She told me I could improve with more practice.
I was devastated. But that tape recorder became one of the most valuable tools I ever owned. I used it to prepare for trial after trial. It was one of the best lessons my mother ever taught me.
I still have that tape recorder. I never told my mother how many times I listened to it. Some things a daughter keeps to herself.
As a parent, my suggestion is this: it is okay to fail, as long as you learn from it. If you want to go deeper on this idea, I recommend Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck. (I know — recommending a book on graduation day is a bold move. But maybe plan to read it in the next six months. My daughters, and especially Christy, know how much I love books)
Your Master’s degree today is evidence of what you already know and what you can already do. But in today’s rapidly changing world — especially with the rise of AI — staying curious and embracing difficulty will matter more than any credential. You are not finished. You are just getting started. Stay life-long learners.
Your degree is your ticket into the arena. Now step in. Have the courage to be brave, try hard things, and do not be afraid to fail — because that is where the real learning begins.
2. Be Purposeful — and Enjoy the Journey
None of us knows how much time we have in this life. And no matter when life ends, we always feel it was too short — which is exactly why it is so important to enjoy the special moments along the way, not just save them for “some day.”
When I was a prosecutor and in my early years at a tech company, I worked what felt like 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. In that process, I missed a lot of moments I can’t get back. It does not have to be that way.
A senior executive I once met had been at his company for over 25 years. I asked him how he had lasted so long. He told me: “This company will work you 24/7 if you let them. I didn’t let them. I gave the company 100 percent — but when I went home, I gave my time to my family, friends and myself.”
Another book I recommend is Chasing Daylight by Eugene O’Kelly, former CEO of KPMG. In the final months of his life after being diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, he wrote about what truly mattered. He shared three lessons that are gifts to every one of you today:
Be purposeful. Live intentionally. Don’t just be busy — know why you are doing what you are doing.
Be present. Put down your phone. Look at the person in front of you. That moment will not come back.
People and relationships matter most. At the end of your life, you will not remember your job title. You will remember the people you loved and who loved you. Block time in your calendar — not just for work colleagues, but for your family and friends. Protect that time.
He wrote that book knowing he had only months to live. And yet his message was not one of regret — it was a guide on how to truly show up. That is the gift he left us.
Success is not only what you achieve. It is also how you live and who you are with along the way. Today is one of those special moments — so enjoy it, fully, with the people beside you.
3. Be Kind
My final piece of advice is the simplest — and honestly, the one I have to remind myself of most often: be kind.
I will leave you with a quote from one of my favorite authors, Maya Angelou:
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
As you go through life, be kind. Make sure people never forget how you made them feel.
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Congratulations, graduates. We wish you all the best as you go out to change the world — courageously, purposefully, and kindly.
And please — call your parents and love ones.
Thank you.